Sunday, January 30, 2011

MilSpouse Vent

This is a serious vent of my experience with our new unit. It is all over the place and probably doesn't make much sense if you aren't familiar with some military.

My amazing husband has been threatened twice today to be demoted! My husband has been in the Army National Guard for SIX stinking years and has never been in trouble! My husband was transferred a few months back because he agreed to extend his contract long enough to deploy. This new unit has been nothing but a bad experience for both of us. This unit has officially changed our minds on ever going active. No way Jose', after this deployment he will be strictly a civilian, no more military for us.

I have been thinking a lot today, I honestly think the Ok National Guard is demoting everyone to be more cost efficient during the deployment. One of my husbands battles had a flat tire or something and was like 5 minutes late and was demoted! I mean that is unnecessary. Life happens, flat tires happen, wrecks happen, children having to use the bathroom at the most inconvenient time happens.

Life just flat out happens, and people need to be aware of that.

This unit has been absolutely ridiculous for the past few months. My husband was threatened twice today as stated above, the first time was over not having his long sleeve PT shirt, the second time was over not having his raffle tickets brought back. After being threatened the first time he called and was really mad because they were never told to wear long sleeves and it was no where stated in their monthly drill letter. The second threat was over him not returning raffle tickets today, which they did not state a specific date for them to be returned. He called back again, saying I had to make the hour drive{one way} to bring them to him cause they were in my car! What? Can't I mail them? It is a few stupid pieces of paper! I was furious at this point, I get my butt in my car and head out for my hour drive, because they wouldn't allow me to mail them! I returned them to him and am now hoping we have 0 problems out of this unit again.

This was the biggest mistake we have ever made, and that may sound bad but this unit is so unorganized and so chaotic.My husband wants nothing more than to serve this country that we love so much but this unit has made it such a horrible experience that we want to get out as quick as we can and NEVER look back. I know that not all units are like this, we had an awesome unit before he was transferred. I wish he could go back in time and tell them he wouldn't extend. Asking him to not extend would be like asking him to jump off a bridge. He loves this country and he loves having the chance to serve for us. He is a selfless man just like {mostly} every other military member. They don't do it for the money, obviously but it is nice to receive the pay you deserve.

Walking around on egg shells is no fun, and being so scared of demotion that you carry EVERY single piece of gear in your truck, and you military wives can agree with me I am sure, there is A S**T TON of military gear. I can almost bet you hate it as much as I do, it takes up nearly a whole entire room of ours.

Please, tell me that y'all have bad days like this. I don't want to be the only one and I don't want y'all to think I am horrible for saying some of the things I have said. I hope some of y'all can at empathize with me if you don't fully understand where I am coming from.

1 comment:

  1. He can't just be demoted at the snap of a finger. There's a whole thing called the UCMJ, and a trial and all that which would need to happen prior & for him to have done something horribly wrong. Sounds like someone is just on a power trip. I wouldn't let it bother you.


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