I understand that he wants to have fun before he leaves and do the things he likes, but playing Modern Warfare 2 for several hours a day is just plain rude in my opinion. He is like a vegetable and honestly it is like he has already left, I feel neglected. I know that we are both very emotionally unstable right now. All I ask of him is that he spends a little time with me when I am home! During the week I RARELY ever see him, by the time I get home he is already at work. He has been playing the stupid xbox since we got home from the yellow ribbon program earlier this afternoon.
I literally just asked him if he wanted to hang out with me, he didn't say a
Ahh, how good it feels to vent away from the husband. I am sure if he has internet while deployed he might end up reading this one day. {Babe,if you ever read this, I am sorry that I felt like this, I spared your feelings and blurted mine out to the entire world! It was better than getting into a stupid argument over a stupid gaming system. I love you}
The yellow ribbon program was amazing, and we learned some pretty awesome tips on how to save some money while deployed. I am pretty excited and I think we can actually save as much as we want, plus some! We are saving for a down payment on a house, that is the only reason my hubby volunteered to go again.
Ok, don't yell at me, but have you tried playing with him? Maybe instead of being something that you fight with him over, it can be something that you can do together. Ok, just hear me out here. I had the SAME issue with my husband when we first got married, but with World of Warcraft... so finally I decided... HECK! I'm just going to play too. Guess what? I really like it, and now he won't even play without me, unless I am studying. I know it sounds strange, but it really brought us closer together because it added something we enjoy to do with each other.
ReplyDeleteJust give it a shot. If you hate it, then you hate it... back to the drawing board. At least then you can tell him that you gave it a shot, and that now he owes you a shot in joining in with something you like.
I can't play this game with him because he plays live. I have played one game with him and I really really liked it, and it was a great stress reliever. Ha. It was a war game also, I loved being the killer instead of the killed. lol
ReplyDeleteI have tried, he won't try doing anything I like. Every now and then he helps me study, so I have to give him some credit. He is awesome but the last few weeks have been horrible, his live membership expired and he almost had a cow! I feel like he is withdrawing himself from me. I don't know, I need to just man up and talk to him but I'd honestly rather not. I honestly feel like I am being the selfish girlfriend that is controlling, I don't mind if he plays but I wish he would spend more time with me since he is about to leave for a year.
Oh so much resentment towards this deployment, he was supposed to get out a few months ago, then they called and said they needed him, he agreed to extend for the deployment, now nursing school is going to be a bitch. Excuse my language, but it's how I feel right now. I am such a worry wart and I freak out and start thinking the worst possible thing.
I also like his xbox time cause it gives me time to study but 6 hours is excessive. He has been playing since 4ish. It is now after 10.
I just wrote a novel, maybe we could publish it and make some money? :) I am not mad at you, it was a good idea.
Is this going to be your first deployment together? It's really kind of normal for the service member to withdraw shortly before they deploy. I know it's not what you want, but maybe just give him a little space to deal with his emotions regarding deployment on his own. I'm sorry, hun. But, I assure you... this is totally normal right before deployment. Even the way you feel is normal. Pre-deployment is a very stressful time for everyone involved. For me, it's almost worst leading up to than the actual thing. The anticipation is just KILLER! :(
ReplyDeleteI also have the same problem. My husband is addicted to the COD as well. Lately it hasn't been bad because he isn't home, but he use to be horrible. he would always plan nights with his friends to play, knowing that I was making plans for the two of us to have date night. I think he has finally gotten tired of all my bitching that he only plays when i am at work or I am cooking. HA Also he got me the wii for Christmas so when he wants to play I play my wii, or blog. Maybe you can find something that you like just as much. I know that it is frustrating that he is leaving soon. I so understand, considering I am going through a TDY right now and a deployment following right after. So I have no idea what to tell you, but I hope that is does get better for you.
ReplyDeleteThanks yall.
ReplyDeleteLast night I went in there and just told him he had been on for over 6 hours and it was time to get off. His friend asked why and he said I've been on for a long time and I need to hang out with my wife before bed since I am deploying soon. His friend was like Dude you need to hang out with her more!!! lol It ended up not being so bad.
Sarah, technically it is our second deployment, but the first one we were just dating and we didn't live together. I actually lived in Nebraska when he left so I didn't have to "say goodbye" and I wasn't there to go through all the emotions with him. I know its normal but I am beginning to hate it, I see changes in myself also. I just plain hate deployments, they suck! I am sure everyone feels that way, I am so proud of him for doing it and he volunteered. When he was called to go he said he really wanted to do it, and I had no rights to throw a fit and cry so I just toughed it up and said yes in an instant. Right after he got home from Iraq he said he wanted to go to Afghanistan and I knew that there was a possibility but I guess I never realized it would actually happen. I will do more than just survive the deployment but I am not looking forward to it.
I never look forward to them either... I've dealt with more than I care to. There really is no way to make them better. One day at a time. Good thing you will be busy with school though. It will help pass the time and keep your mind off the fact that he's gone. Every once and a while though, if you are anything like me, you will have a total break down. Just remember, that it is OK to cry sometimes. It helps to get it all out every now and then. :) I know you will be fine, and survive with success!
ReplyDeleteOh yes, school is going to be my lifesaver and best friend. I plan on making A+'s! Haha. That is like gold in nursing! I plan on studying more though and reading all of the assigned reading!
ReplyDeleteI love crying also, I always feel so much better after a good cry.